I tried hard to get her.
Alas! She didn’t even notice me.
“Am I that ugly?” I thought to myself.
She lived opposite my compound.
She was fair in complexion and her smile was tender.
When she smiled, my worries disappeared.
Her dark curly hair made her super attractive.
Her beauty made the guys in my neighborhood frenemies.
What I liked most about her?
She was slender and a little curvy.
Geeh… She looked soft and fragile.
Ooops! I’ve always had a thing for slender girls.
She was the center of attention.
Almost nobody had the courage to approach her.
She was hands down gorgeous.
We (The guys in my neighborhood) had a lot of admiration and respect for her UNTIL….
We got to know her boyfriend.
Her boyfriend was a random potbellied guy in the neighborhood.
He had no muscle. He had tribal marks.
And he sucked on the football pitch.
Far from being attractive.
Heck! He was far from being eloquent.
“How did he get her?!” ; Was the question lingering in my head for weeks.
It was sickening for me to watch my crush love up on an unattractive lad.
To put it plain – I was hurt!
“How Did He Get Her?!”
With your permission, I suggest we solve this riddle together.
How did a potbellied ugly lad win the heart of a beauty queen that every guy crushed on?
From personal experience, life is not always about being the best option, it’s about who wants it the most.
And in order to get something you want, you need two vital things : Power & Influence.
The power to influence the other party’s thought and action in a way that favors you and the other party (READ THAT AGAIN!)
The potbellied ugly guy in the above story might be unattractive BUT he had THREE traits that could make anyone get what they want :
1. Courage :
While the other guys (Including myself) were simply “admiring”, the potbellied ugly guy approached his target.
He didn’t care about his looks, he just went for it.
While I was thinking about “what to say”, my potbellied friend got in her face.
“Courage is fire… ” – Benjamin Disraeli
2. The Ability To Communicate Effectively :
I have zero doubt my potbellied friend in the above story is a great communicator.
“If you don’t understand people OR know how to communicate effectively, you’re in trouble – A lot of trouble actually” – Mr Mih
You see, people underestimate how vital it is to improve on their communication skills.
No wonder many people wallow in defeat – Because they fail to get someone to say “Yes” to them for too long.
Pay close attention to this :
You won’t get the job, woman, support or opportunity you deserve if you DON’T know how to communicate effectively.
3. The Ability To Be Unpredictable :
“Unpredictability is power” – Mr Mih
When people can predict you accurately, you’re done.
Predictability is boring.
Spontaneous is charming.
That’s one of the reasons my potbellied ugly friend got the beauty queen while I hugged my pillow every night.
Learn to be unpredictable and you’ll keep your friends, competition and possibly…. Your frenemies on their toes.
Prosperity is real,